A happier life is built with your own hands at work and with what life is giving you. Discover and practice these three «simple yet profound» habits that will lead you to a happier life.
Practice Gratitude, especially you are not feeling grateful.
If you wait the circumstances to be as you like in order to feel gratefulnes, it will always be separated from you, kind of out of reach, out of touch of reality. This is not the right way to approach it. Gratitude does not happen in regard of your circumstances. Gratefulnes requires a proactive approach: you look around in your life, see the countless blessings and feel grateful. The more you do it, the more it grows, like any other practice in life. Take a pause, see your life, there are might be several reasons to be grateful for.
The mere fact of being and feeling grateful rises your chances to feel and be happy. So, grateful and happy help each other, one supports the believe and state of the other. Gratefulness has another powerful benefit: it also builds resilience when facing adversity or setbacks. You learn to see the positive side of a difficult moment, you understand that life is trying to teach something out of it. Gratefulness also reinforces your bonds in your life with family and friends. Furthermore, being grateful and happy improves your inner and physical state which adds to the overall improved health. It makes you more generous and more patient. Like Cicerón stated many years back, «Gratitude is the mother of all other virtues in life». It is the root to wellbeing.
Take care of your emotions.
Seat down with your emotions, do not try to get rid of the negative emotions (this is the way to train happiness). Since we are kids we are taught that negative emotions such as fear or sadness should be treated or to eliminate them from our lives. We are taught that is not good to feel bad. So, dealing with negatives states train you to become better, should a real crisis arises in the future. You are then better equipped with more inner tools and techniques.
Studies show that dealing with such emotions instead of suppressing them build emotional resilience. On the contrary, people who try to ignore or suppress them do not posses these inner tools or techniques to face such emotional states. Finding deep meaning in life such as building emotional strength, imply facing and dealing with such negative emotions with the inherent tough risk of being uncomfortable, in conflict, sad or even angry.
Joy over pleasure.
Yes, once again, choose joy over pleasure. We often refer to the terms – joy and pleasure – indistinctly meaning the same thing but they are not. Pleasure exceeds you, it mainly lasts for a short period of time and comes from outside sources. On the other hand, joy is created by you, from within. Joy comes from the heart. In this case, by choosing joy, you are being source of the enjoyment. You are the creator.
Joy is more conscious and permanent. For instance, the memory of a meal with friends will last long after, it transcend the immediate experience and can bring a great feeling even long after the event.
When is joy and when is pleasure?
Do I pay attention when a negative state comes?
What are the three habits you take with you when travelling?
May you see your attitude as the foundation of your personal wellbeing.
Youtomic.
